I was trying to help my 5 year old son understand the difference between a secret and a surprise.

We always taught him that we don’t keep secrets, mostly to try to keep him from lying to us, but also to protect him in general.

But when saying we need to not tell mummy about a surprise we are planning he tells me we don’t keep secrets. And this is what i came up with to help him understand the difference.

Secrets are kept and hidden from someone. whereas a surprise is held to be given to someone.

  • ScrollerBall@lemmy.worldEnglish
    7·
    1 day ago

    I think you need to add in the concept of ‘confidental’ as well to this. Your address isn’t a secret, but you don’t tell somone on the internet, even a ‘friend’ on the internet, where you live.

    • Mr_Dr_Oink@lemmy.worldOP
      2·
      23 hours ago

      A fair point. The rule is more to not keep secrets from eachother. This post was more about the distiction between secrets and surprises, and not really focused on the moral considerations or other nuances.