This reminds me of a burn my wife gave to a random guy that decided to hit on her one day she was out running errands while I was taking care of the kids.

Deadass just first thing out of her mouth after he hit her with the “I won’t tell if you won’t,” to her saying she’s married. “Ew, I’m gonna need you to tell me what about any of this (gesturing to her entire Butch Lesbian look) made you believe I was straight so I can immediately remedy it.” I almost felt bad for the guy for a second. Almost.

When bro is such a bro you completely forget he’s trans.

My wife’s got a friend this happens with all the time. She’ll be talking to him and something about our oldest will come up. She’ll make some remark to him thinking he’ll relate, entirely forgetting that he had to transition so he didn’t experience whatever it was the same way.

Nah he had a foundation too.

It absolutely can be if you let it get out of control. I still struggle with it in fact. It can cause emotional burnout, wreck your mental health, things like that. To be fair, even the “good” version of this gets weaponized to ignore causes that someone might not want to care about without “being a bad person” all the time. Think the “I have to prioritize my own mental health” types who only seem to have energy for issues that directly affect them. Again having limited emotional energy isn’t the issue, being disingenuous about it is.

But that’s not what this freak is talking about. What this freak is talking about amounts to “Empathy is reserved for the in-group. If it impedes our efforts or contradicts our dogma, then it’s toxic empathy,” basically.

This is how I die. Floofed to death by a Floof Monster.

100%

Almost invariably people like this have a crippling porn addiction and refuse to believe that they’re the ones with the problem. They delude themselves into believing that if the porn just didn’t exist that there wouldn’t be a problem anymore.