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In my family the men tend to have children quite late in life. I’m nearing 40 and my grandfather was a Victorian (born 1897).

Makes sense, it’s not like he’s planning on leaving.

There have been some great games with development times that long.

Can you name some? I don’t mean to be derisive, I just literally can’t think of any right now.

Unfortunately they’re not significantly more fun despite that.

Yeah, I’ve been watching from the sidelines and still haven’t seen anything that moves the needle sufficiently.

Where are the games?!

I’m so glad it’s not just me calling this stuff out and posting the uncensored shit. Some stuff should be censored in my view - you know, pro-Nazi stuff, that weird shit that encourages anorexia, that sort of stuff - but not dumb memes.

…and particularly when the censorship is so fucking lazy. Jesus, do a quick search for part of the text and you’ll find an uncensored original. Post that!

Back in the '80s my British father would get as far as opening his mouth to use the Swedish he’d been practicing before the shopkeeper would preempt him in flawless English “How can I help you, sir?”.

My inlaws actually don’t speak any English and they’re the first adult Swedes I’ve known that don’t. Fortunately I speak Swedish fluently but it was comedically awkward for my wife’s previous British boyfriends!

I hope OP edits the post. Stamp out censorship of memes on Lemmy.

A colleague titled a slide “how is babby formed?” at work a few weeks ago. Still makes me laugh.

Actively wanting to date someone less intelligent than oneself feels like predatorial behaviour.

To steal a joke from Milton Jones:

My sister suffers from hayfever, diabetes, and vertigo. I try my best to be supportive but I’m not sure whether my efforts are going down so well. I’ve sent her flowers, chocolates, and sometimes I just give her a call to say hi(gh).

Given the history of Battlefield, so what? Anyone buying at launch only has themselves to blame.

Best of luck with that, idiots. How are you planning to tell the difference between my personal VPN and my work VPN?

Yay!

You’re taking this extremely personally for some reason

I think that could be said for your entire response to me. I’ve no interest in further interacting with you. I’ve attempted to relate to you, be friendly in disagreement, and be clear in my position. That’s not working and this interaction is just proving a source of needless stress. Goodbye.

These things always irk me.

We are all weird.

I’ve met plenty of normal people who aren’t weird. You might not remember them as they actively blend into the background and are as memorable as a margerine sandwich. At some point they probably had the potential to be interesting and weird but decades of avoiding being weird has sanded all the interesting edges off like stones on the sea shore.

Everyone’s pretending. No one knows what they’re doing.

This is the one that gets my goat. It’s reinforcing learned helplessness and generally encouraging lousy self image.

I’ll bet dollarydoos to doughnuts that most people do know what they’re doing but constantly compare themselves to a mythical idealised adult that they feel they should be. Said adult is based on their perceptions of adults as a small child. Someone who, comparatively, knows everything in the world and when the viewer was small and scared was in no way phased (because they’d done whatever mundane thing a thousand times before).

What are we even defining as “knowing what you’re doing”. What level of knowledge and experience would be sufficient to satisfy this criteria?

When I cook my home made lasagne that I’ve made on countless occasions, am I pretending?

When I realise that I have a flat tyre and pull over to replace it, am I making it up as I go along?

When I attend a party and make social connections with new people, would I have to have a precise game plan of every conceivable circumstance I could encounter (and a plan of action) to be considered to “know what I’m doing”?

We should all be giving ourselves a lot more credit. Either you’ve got this or you’re about to learn something new that will see you competently tackle this situation in future. As you build your skills and experience you’ll find lots of stuff is transferrable and new stuff just isn’t that hard. It’s all based on shared human experiences - it’s rare that anything is designed to be as alien as possible to us!

Do whatever you want. Have you tried that yet? It’s fucking amazing.

This bit though - do that. Be sillier. Or more serious. Whatever you feel like. Ideally don’t make other people’s lives hell though. Conformity is over rated.

Replace this post with the uncensored version.

Some games do this - often called “night mode”. Seems like a lot of people would benefit from it in other mediums!

Ironically, I really don’t want to read that much text right now, but that’s mostly because it’s 0450 and said newborn has only just fallen back to sleep. I’m going to, but it amused me that the timing of me reading the comment is so poor.

Also before we go on:

I’m not presuming anything. There’s nothing wrong with enjoying the “visual medium”. You’re just not used to reading, clearly, meaning you’re probably not a big reader.

Your first sentence and last sentence are direct contradictions. I’m plenty used to reading and you’re presuming I’m not based on my dislike of subtitles (as what other data do you have to go on?).

Anyway, my annoyance at that aside, let’s have some context:

I read a LOT as a child, a tradition I intend to continue with my child. Ideally I don’t want her to spend much time watching stuff at all. I also grew up with a deaf sister and a father with one functional ear. We always had subtitles on.

I still turned out the way I did.

Also, I’m half Swedish, so any time spent in Sweden - guess what, subtitles!

I do not like that my brain works this way. It is extremely annoying. However, try as I might, it makes no difference.

So for preference I only use subtitles when I need to (elsewhere in the thread, for example, I talk about watching Das Boot). It’s a compromise for me and if I don’t need it I don’t want to have my eye constantly drawn to the bottom of the screen rather than wherever the filmmaker is trying to draw my eye (assuming the film maker knows how to do that - see Transformers vs. Fury Road!). In principle some subtitle formats support better placement but how often does that actually see use? It’s a total crapshoot.

Subtitles may well improve literacy, but I would expect that fostering the same love of reading that everyone else in my family has is probably better. She already has a library cued up and ready to go, both in English and Swedish, so we’re going to do our best.

Essentially I take the view that if I’m using a medium I want the best of it - within reason. So if it’s film, I want visuals (I collect UHDs), if it’s audio I want decent quality (but SACDs are still dumb 😆), and if it’s literature I want engaging narratives (I don’t care if it eventually gets good - lots of books are good to begin with and my reading time is limited!).

These days I don’t read much because I have so many other things to do, but when I do I kind of get a little… What’s the opposite of lagom? I power through books and then reappear looking like that bear that’s just emerged from hibernation 😂

One problem I do have with reading though is choice - my mother put amazing effort into picking books for me. However as a result my skill at choosing for myself isn’t great. Still, I have recommendations from friends and the internet and more of those than I have time to read. Hopefully my child won’t end up with that issue!

What a strangely presumptuous and negative response.

I built myself a home theatre setup with an HDR TV to enjoy the visual medium. If I then spend the duration reading rather than enjoying the cinematography and colours then I might as well just go read in the armchair I have for that, in a different room.

Almost as if I’m a compulsive reader!

Am I also listening to music incorrectly?