We were a couple right away so no existing friendship beforehand but within the relationship, that’s kinda how it works yeah!

That’s the gist of the success of my marriage. Even before we met, we both had reached a point of maturity where we were confident in ourselves as single people, and then from that solid base you can build the relationship in a healthy way. We both try to be the best to our partner, while being ultimately independent. These over-jealous people are using their relationship as a crutch for life so they’re terrified of it going wrong. Either that or they’re guilty themselves and projecting.

None of these ever worked on me. I see Reddit started doing it too btw.

The best is to mix, in my neighborhood in the Netherlands you have some free standing single family homes, big apartments, small apartments, row houses (what we have), mix of social/private, and with shops available on foot/bike. This is in a “village” a bit outside the big towns. Suburbs have basically the same format with a bit higher apartment towers but you get the public transport directly to the center on top (and pay accordingly for the privilege). Now unfortunately, good planning and infrastructure is only one part, because the prices are definitely crazy here as well and it’s a big issue, but that’s due to the capitalism aspect of it, not the urban planning.

The music is amazing, enjoy. There is also the anime Samurai Champloo where he made the soundtrack, also highly recommend.

If you’re into lo-fi maybe check out Nujabes, Japanese legend that is sometimes dubbed as the father of the genre even though it’s decidedly different from the typical modern lo-fi style.