We got a sharp one here!

Blood feeds blood. Blood calls blood. Blood is, and blood was, and blood shall ever be.

You’re on point at least on the capitalism behind this. I didn’t want to dive into it because my comment was long enough, but I’m glad you did

Calling it out in person works a lot better than online. Online it’s just mean words on a screen they have to deal with. A living, breathing person telling them they are dumb has more sting.

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I talk about this in another comment on a different post, but I’ll give you the TLDR, plus a bit more musing:

• At the highest level, this type of thinking stems from an erosion of parenting and the evolution of the digital age. It’s not that parents don’t care, but they have less time than they have historically to parent, and both parents have to work to support the family in most cases.

• Kids now socialize less due to time spent online

• The algorithms online are powerful and meant to keep you watching, even if it’s not great for you

• Because of the lack of parenting and being terminally on there is less and less interaction with positive male role model, so kids figuring themselves out latch on to anything they can find and it ends up being Tate and ilk because fear and anger sell, and they make us feel like if only we were just a bit better, we would have what the tatertots have.

• To combat this, we need to make morons afraid again

• Saying something outrageous used to cost you social capital but now everyone is too busy to care and there’s been the rise of the ideal that all opinions are equal, confrontation, unless approved by the talking heads online, is bad, and everyone need to feel safe, heard, and their opinions as valid (at least to a degree)

• We can best deal with this weaponized misogyny by calling people out - especially kids - as it crops up. If you’re a coach on a hockey team and someone starts up, shut them down. Leagues have diversity and inclusion policies - use them to back yourself up.

• Even if it’s just someone else’s kid you are around, while you may be afraid of speaking up, but chances are most parents would want to know their kid is calling women ‘holes’ or the like and will deal with it.

The only way this goes away is if we address it at every stage, and every time it comes up.

Men with halitosis like to suck titties too

This is the vibe I go for

While she says teachers are on the front lines, and she’s right, it’s not necessarily their responsibility to fix this problem beyond addressing it as it comes up.

The onus is largely on the parents, but more importantly, it should be on all men to call this shit out as they see it.

Little Bobby on your son’s hockey team is spouting drivel and you’re the coach? Don’t just sit there and go ‘meh, ain’t my kid’ - call it out. Talk about it. Penalize them if you have to. Rely on the systems already in place (like inclusion/safe space policies in sports leagues) to have your back when you have to act.

You’re out supervising your kid and someone else’s kid playing and their kids start up with ‘women want to be raped’ - call that shit out. Shut it down. You might have an awkward conversation later with the parent, but any parent worth their salt will be ripping a strip off their kid if they find out how they have been acting.

I feel like a lot of people are afraid to call out stuff like this because they’re worried about the backlash they may face, or get shamed for not considering the offender’s feelings. Offenders shouldn’t feel safe, and lack of action only emboldens them. Not very long ago, it used to be if you said something stupid, you got relentlessly mocked. We’ve moved away from that, and now every opinion is seen as equal; even the harmful ones.

Make morons afraid again.

I’m howling - thanks for the laugh

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