Whenever I think about the movie Children of Men, all I can think is that the answer to the Human Project’s question was microplastics.

Instead of asking why women couldn’t have children anymore, they should have been checking men for forever confetti in their balls.

That on it’s own is fine.

But I said no. I shouldn’t have to say no more than once because it’s annoying to continually say no. It is weird that they put nearly two weeks of effort into trying to get me to do something when I already said no.

We already worked a physically demanding job and I rode a bike to and from work. I was already happy with my body but they weren’t happy with my arms.

I’m quite fortunate enough to have found people who appreciate my hugs. Not quite bros. Or maybe they are. Depends on peoples perspective. In any case, my arms just fine as they are for them :)

I’ve had a lifetime of people labeling me as something and trying to enforce that label on me. When I eventually do something that sits outside of that label, those same people get angry at me for breaking the expectations that they set for me. Expectations that they never explicitly told me but assumed because of that label they placed on me.

As a result, I pushed back by “delabelling” myself, mostly. If I must label myself, I attempt to use the most broad term possible as to avoid cornering myself. Sometimes it’s too easy to use a label as a conversational shortcut.

As a personal result, I tend to avoid labeling others. In my mind that puts me on even level with the people around me. It avoids me talking to specific groups of people and allows others to participate in the discussion, no matter how those other people view or identify themselves.

I’ve watched how words, labels and categorizations have become weaponized and used to divide people. Which is absurdity. Words are ever evolving and dying so to me it seems pointless to allow words to strongly influence me.

These days I surround myself with people who are able to show me who they are over people who spend their energy telling me who they are. Real confidence doesn’t need to waste their time on only words. Those words should add to that person as a whole. That’s how I want to view another person.

Not trying to convince you to change your mind, I do see the value in using words or labels to find community, especially in times like these. I think you seem open to at least seeing where my unorthodox views come from.

I tend to ignore terms like neurotypical and neurodiverse because I just view everyone as neurodiverse. And if everyone is neurodiverse, then nobody is neurodiverse. That just means to me that people are people. Some more insecure than others.

I also think that everyone is gay. Which means I personally don’t really view anyone as gay, just people doing normal people things no matter who they love. Some people just happen to be insecure as fuck about loving another person.

What I do see are a lot of insecure people attempting to set and enforce normal behaviour because they are afraid of being weird while ignoring the fact that being alive is the most weird and pointless experience ever.

Gotta have a little fun with the weird, pointlessness of existence, that’s what can make life beautiful and interesting :)

I was just having some fun by pointing out that women aren’t the only mythical creature whose signals are hard to read.

I do agree with your last point thoroughly, bullshitters do be bullshittin’ it. A lot. Too much I would say.

I’m quite literally a bro they can hang out with, and have always been. I just lack the big strong arms they want me to have to cuddle them with D:

Part of the confusion is the men I have had experiences with spend a lot of time talking about women but then invest an uncomfortable amount of time trying to turn me into a man that they want me to be for them.

One guy spent nearly two weeks trying to get me to take creatine and go work out with him. Like if he wants me to cuddle him with big, strong, manly arms, he was going about it in a weird way.

It’s just as confusing when men love that I treat them as unique individual but get upset with me that I also treat women like unique individuals, almost like they are jealous.

The signals are there but I can’t read 'em!

I’m autistic as fuck so I can’t read anyone’s signals but men are just as bad. I could never understand why men worked so hard to get my attention and got all weird when I didn’t give them that attention.

They also spend a lot of time trying to shape me into the type of man they want to be around yet they would never outright say what they are doing and why I should change for them.

Then they would get all jealous when I actually hung out with women and get even weirder about it when I wouldn’t engage them in the weird conversations they wanted to have about women.

Like dude, if you want a hug or a cuddle, just say so because these roundabout games you’re playing is confusing as fuck.

So now I wander the earth thoroughly confused…

There’s some significant family history that can explain why my mom is overprotective of me as her baby boy so I can understand why she acts the way she does.

I just happened to turn out as an incredibly independent and self sufficient person which clashes hard with overprotective personalities.

I am also Autistic/ADHD and get overwhelmed easily and spend a lot of time on my own as well which plays a strong part in all of this too.

My mom being overprotective of me did play a big part in me taking off to travel and live abroad. I also think I would have naturally gone travelling given different circumstances and motivations. I just want to explore new places and experience new things.

Ideally I would have a wing suit and I would do a loop de loop into the side of a mountain. I’ve been fortunate enough to have had the time to reflect on good memories in my life and I want to go out living purely in the moment.

But as with all plans I’ve ever made it life, it most likely will not happen. I’ll go out in a completely unexpected and unplanned way. Probably in a ridiculous way too. Sadly it won’t be a story I’ll be able to share that time but that’s just how it goes.

My mom is like this. She was very over protective of me when I was growing up. She made the mistake of telling me I couldn’t travel alone and that eventually lead me to move to Australia for two years on a work/holiday visa.

I was told to check in near daily but I maybe called home once or twice a month and that still felt like pulling my own teeth.

My adhd wants to whatever random shit it wants to do and does not like to be interrupted.

I went to the other side of the planet and somehow it still wasn’t far enough.

I don’t need anyone to take care of me when I’m older. I decided that my retirement plan will be extreme sports. Base jumping? Wing suit? Steel toeing cops in the nuts? So many thrilling choices! Whatever happens, happens.

I was considering a single user instance but I noticed just how much data was being transferred throughout the day and decided against it.

I’m drawn to IRC and Gemeni because it seems to use far less data. I’ve lately been into lowering my electrical power usage while still being able to use the internet. That also includes the type of programs my computer and devices use.

Practical or not, it’s been an interesting hobby for myself to learn.

It will only be for a select number of people I know and am comfortable with being there. This is going to be hosted on a Raspberry Pi so it’s not going to be set up for a large number of people.

I don’t want to moderate images or videos which is my main concern when it comes to moderation.

I read the experiences of moderators from the initial CSAM attack on Lemmy and that was already discouraging. I also spent time in PieFed’s matrix channel and hearing the additional tools being requested made me realize I just don’t want to deal with that at all.

I have plans to set up both an IRC server and a Gemeni site on my Raspberry Pi if I can figure out how to get security working on my preferred reverse proxy program.

The internet today is so overwhelming and all I want is the simplicity I felt when I first made my way online as a teen.

I tried hosting a lemmy/piefed instance but I soon learned that I’d have to be a moderator. After hearing stories from other moderators and seeing the types of tools required/requested by moderators, I decided that it’s just not worth the effort and loss of sanity.

In between all the anxiety attacks brought on by being autistically different from the people that normally surround me is the chaotic freedom of doing whatever the adhd wants to do. I at least have some fun stories throughout my life to remember and share :)

This was a video of a frustrated person asking the same question for 9 minutes. I get it too.

It’s one of the few ways to force these people to say their lack of truth or true intentions. No name calling or labeling, avoid words that are meant for a specific group of people, no getting off topic. Talk in words that many people can understand and make them answer in words that many people can understand.

Treat them like the manipulators that they are because they are acting like manipulators.

I enjoy when I am able to verbally back someone into a corner where anything they say can only make themselves look worse.

I have a deep frustration with manipulators since they believe I am an easy target. I strongly believe manipulators do not deserve the attention or never-ending second chances they constantly demand.

before I jump to conclusions.

Population control is not a solution.

I didn’t state anything about population control.

I’m merely exhausted by the complexity that people must deal with for each person we add to this planet. That complexity would be far more manageable if humans didn’t reproduce exponentially.

Yes we can support support 8 billion people. But why? From my understanding we got here mainly because capitalism and war has a high demand for warm bodies.

Maybe we can learn from our mistakes and deal with them rather than making excuses to remain on course for pain, suffering and disaster. Us humans learning and overcoming our current situation has the benefit for all life on this planet.

It’s hard watching the people around me make the same mistakes they always make and complain about the same mistakes they always make.

It’s hard watching large organizations and states make the same mistakes they always make and blame everyone else for the mistakes they always make. Even when history proves them wrong.

I can never understand why people argue for 8+ billion people on this planet when we collectively refuse to learn from mistakes.

I’m tired…