The best advice I learned from my manager was 2 parts.

1. Try and understand their point of view, you may need to adjust your actions if their point of view is seeing you as not helpful/annoying (looking back i was being very obnoxious, sending too many emails)

2. Have a work self and a non work self. I was very shy and that was not looked highly on at my job so I tried my best little by little to open up more

These really helped me in my career.

High school teacher had us read Survivor Type - thus began my love for stephen king