I used to be in the same camp (and it’s still not for me) but it started to make more sense to me when I realized it’s kind of been a thing we’ve been doing for a while.
There’s the well known Papi, in Spanish, but, even as far back as the 1930s in The Grapes of Wrath, you have Pa Joad refer to Ma Joad as “Ma”. Even in The Year without a Santa Clause (for a more modern but still older reference), Santa refers to Mrs. Clause as “Ma”.
The idea of using these titles for anyone other than my own parents was not something that’s intuitive to me, at all, but clearly it’s a thing humans have been doing for (at least) a century. Not all those examples are in sexual contexts but I imagine that a nickname you have for your partner isn’t not going to end up continuing into the bedroom, at least not for everyone.
In that context, it started to make more sense to my brain.
Hey thanks for the history lesson. That makes sense, and if Freud was right, it is in fact a primal impulse. But I don’t think Feud was right. To the best of my knowledge, saying my parent’s name or title as a sex thing is definitely not my cup of tea
I had a short-term ex say that and it really turned me off every time. If the relationship went on longer, I would’ve eventually said something. It really weirded me out, especially knowing that her dad died of cancer a year prior. It’s like, what the hell is going on in your head? Get that checked out.
It’s some sort of power play, parents are authority figures and it’s a very popularized term, so maybe saying daddy instead of boss or Mr officer feels easier, as an introduction to sub/dom play.
The people that actually have daddy issues are different though.
Yeah, and dunno if it’s just because I have two kids now. I assume it would’ve struck me as odd before, but I guess I didn’t think of it back in the before times.
I have no kids and have always found it disturbing and off-putting. It’s not a common thing in my country and language though, but I was with an American girl several years ago who said it and my member deflated like someone pulled the plug. No thanks.
It definitely weirds me out too and I at one point definitely had this opinion. But then I was with a woman once who I was very, very attracted to; Possibly more than anyone else I’ve been with. (Not that that’s a bunch of people) She started calling me daddy repeatedly while we were getting into, and despite me being a little weirded out by it I, uh, didn’t stop.
Ye I didn’t want to kink shame anyone. I also respect the kink, but it would be a deal breaker for me. That and inflicting pain. I don’t judge those who are into those things, but they’re not for me.
The daddy thing as in the pornos is completely unrealistic too
As someone who actually has a daddy kink, I’ve never seen anyone who has a one night stand and instantly sees their partner as their daddy
I mean, I’m an extreme case, but I don’t think you can just see someone as your daddy without bonding with him first. Like, I’ve spend like a year or 2 with him and gone through a lot of stuff until I even started thinking of calling him daddy, but now its pretty normal for us, after like 4 years, and im happily calling him Papi or Papa, and he’s calling me „kleine” or Mika, but thats really an edgecase
Only other scene where I’ve seen someone become someone’s daddy instantly was with abdl rp stuff, but that’s non sexual
That ‘daddy’ thing in sex will always freak me out. If a woman called me daddy during sex that would be the end of it
I used to be in the same camp (and it’s still not for me) but it started to make more sense to me when I realized it’s kind of been a thing we’ve been doing for a while.
There’s the well known Papi, in Spanish, but, even as far back as the 1930s in The Grapes of Wrath, you have Pa Joad refer to Ma Joad as “Ma”. Even in The Year without a Santa Clause (for a more modern but still older reference), Santa refers to Mrs. Clause as “Ma”.
The idea of using these titles for anyone other than my own parents was not something that’s intuitive to me, at all, but clearly it’s a thing humans have been doing for (at least) a century. Not all those examples are in sexual contexts but I imagine that a nickname you have for your partner isn’t not going to end up continuing into the bedroom, at least not for everyone.
In that context, it started to make more sense to my brain.
Hey thanks for the history lesson. That makes sense, and if Freud was right, it is in fact a primal impulse. But I don’t think Feud was right. To the best of my knowledge, saying my parent’s name or title as a sex thing is definitely not my cup of tea
Oh, I didn’t mean it was a primal instinct; just that it seems to be a common cultural one.
I definitely feel you, though; it’s very much not mine, either.
Cause you finished?
hahaha touché
I had a short-term ex say that and it really turned me off every time. If the relationship went on longer, I would’ve eventually said something. It really weirded me out, especially knowing that her dad died of cancer a year prior. It’s like, what the hell is going on in your head? Get that checked out.
It’s some sort of power play, parents are authority figures and it’s a very popularized term, so maybe saying daddy instead of boss or Mr officer feels easier, as an introduction to sub/dom play.
The people that actually have daddy issues are different though.
Yeah, use good boy like a normal person!
That’ll do pig
Honestly as much as that’s still weird it’s a whole lot better than the incest thing.
Comment + username makes me picture you as Mr Peanutbutter
same. is it mostly an American thing? cause none of my friends would ever think to call their boyfriends “daddy”
No we say “papa”
Yeah, and dunno if it’s just because I have two kids now. I assume it would’ve struck me as odd before, but I guess I didn’t think of it back in the before times.
Ye now that I am a father of a girl, the thought itself disgusts me. I did find it weird before but now it blows my mind
I have no kids and have always found it disturbing and off-putting. It’s not a common thing in my country and language though, but I was with an American girl several years ago who said it and my member deflated like someone pulled the plug. No thanks.
It definitely weirds me out too and I at one point definitely had this opinion. But then I was with a woman once who I was very, very attracted to; Possibly more than anyone else I’ve been with. (Not that that’s a bunch of people) She started calling me daddy repeatedly while we were getting into, and despite me being a little weirded out by it I, uh, didn’t stop.
Horny is a hell of a thing.
Hahaha true that. My brain doesn’t like it but the other organ is more tolerant
I’m good with it as long as it doesn’t leave the bedroom or turn towards something really wrong. Otherwise, I respect the kink.
“Daddy, could you pass the salt?”
My hand touches the salt shaker, so does her father’s.
Ye I didn’t want to kink shame anyone. I also respect the kink, but it would be a deal breaker for me. That and inflicting pain. I don’t judge those who are into those things, but they’re not for me.
The daddy thing as in the pornos is completely unrealistic too
As someone who actually has a daddy kink, I’ve never seen anyone who has a one night stand and instantly sees their partner as their daddy
I mean, I’m an extreme case, but I don’t think you can just see someone as your daddy without bonding with him first. Like, I’ve spend like a year or 2 with him and gone through a lot of stuff until I even started thinking of calling him daddy, but now its pretty normal for us, after like 4 years, and im happily calling him Papi or Papa, and he’s calling me „kleine” or Mika, but thats really an edgecase
Only other scene where I’ve seen someone become someone’s daddy instantly was with abdl rp stuff, but that’s non sexual
So thats what you have been doing instead of getting the one piece?