Maybe it’s that there is nothing wrong with a man explaining something that he is excited about and that there is also nothing wrong with women feigning attention in these situations because it’s a social response to promote group thinking as opposed to individual effort?
Maybe it’s only natural and we don’t have to hate ourselves for it? Sure you might not be happy to play that role every single time, but you don’t have to because you are free to choose.
Also, you can isolate yourself from other people if you do not wish to have discourse with men or women that will no doubt involve them explaining things to you that they are passionate about or excited in the moment.
I would certainly not criticize the woman or the man for these behaviors because I see it as human.
For me, I convert that feeling into XKCD’s lucky ten-thousand wherever practical. It transforms the situation from a ‘me vs you’ conversation to an US vs crazy reality.
I catch myself doing this all the damn time, and that’s precisely what it is for me.
I suspect that’s what it is for many of us. Most of us don’t intend condescension, but I expect that doesn’t make it any better ;)
Maybe it’s that there is nothing wrong with a man explaining something that he is excited about and that there is also nothing wrong with women feigning attention in these situations because it’s a social response to promote group thinking as opposed to individual effort?
Maybe it’s only natural and we don’t have to hate ourselves for it? Sure you might not be happy to play that role every single time, but you don’t have to because you are free to choose.
Also, you can isolate yourself from other people if you do not wish to have discourse with men or women that will no doubt involve them explaining things to you that they are passionate about or excited in the moment.
I would certainly not criticize the woman or the man for these behaviors because I see it as human.
Well shit, I think you just helped me discover the origins of my introverted trait. I think I might isolate myself to keep from being that person!
Great job exploring your feelings! You are a superstar!
For me, I convert that feeling into XKCD’s lucky ten-thousand wherever practical. It transforms the situation from a ‘me vs you’ conversation to an US vs crazy reality.
Could probably also maybe slightly disarm it with “did you [want to] know about (x)”