Oooh that hits.
I went to a doctor for a refill on ear infection medication. That’s right a REFILL, for something that had been previously diagnosed by another doctor. I told him this, so many fucking times.
Nope. I had Covid.
“Sir, I just need a refill.”
He just screamed at me, in broken English. “NO, YOU HAVE COVID. GO!”
I did not have Covid. I didn’t even have a cough, a sneeze, or anything. My ear was in pain, and I couldn’t hear hardly at all… and yah know… it was fucking bleeding.
I did not get the medication he prescribed me. I got ear drops from behind the counter and took allergy meds and then hopped for the best.
Brother, you didn’t even have to examine me. I told you what was wrong. You could’ve gone home early!
This is gonna hurt someone’s feelings, but doctors don’t call people fat unless they’re overweight. It’s just that, as a society, we are fucking delusional about obesity and lie to ourselves and others constantly, distorting what a healthy weight even looks like.
Sure, but sometimes (a lot of the time, from the experiences of multiple women in my life) doctors use “you’re overweight” as a thought terminating phrase and won’t even begin to look at other possible illnesses or treatments other than “you’re overweight, you need diet and exercise”.
By all means, if obesity is impacting their health it is something that needs to be addressed as well. That doesn’t negate other health issues that happen to be comorbid with obesity, though.
You could’ve stopped after the first word.
Also, “if obesity is impacting their health” is delusional talk. Obesity always impacts health. There is no if.
Sometimes obesity is a symptom of something else wrong that doesn’t get diagnosed, it’s a systemic issue sadly.
However I do wish I could shame the overweight people buying enough snacks for a family as their midnight snack. Like honey, this is why you’re big, have you tried just not eating four candy bars a day?
Obesity is not a systemic issue, it’s a caloric and exercise issue.
I don’t see the point or humanity in shaming fat people, but I also don’t see the point in soothing ego by coddling.
Systemic issues can affect the amount and quality of both calories and exercise in people’s lives though, so they can at least contribute to obesity. Especially when we’re talking about industrial food production.
Sometimes obesity is a symptom of something else wrong that doesn’t get diagnosed, it’s a systemic issue sadly.
All my PCOS sisters (and PCOS brothers with ovaries), raise your hands!
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I get why doctors go straight to, “It’s the fat.” It’s not fair, but it’s understandable.
Put yourself in the doctor’s shoes. The majority of people they see are fat. Don’t believe it? Look around the waiting room. First time I realized this was a revelation. My old doctor serves almost exclusively senior citizens, who got to be seniors by not being fat. Now I go to other, closer offices and I’m often the only person in the room who isn’t overweight. And there’s always some morbidly obese person with a cast on their leg. Wonder how that happened?
Imagine how many cases they get in a week that are due to obesity, or aggravated by it. It’s kinda like doing tech support where you think you already know what the problem is because you see it every damned day. “sigh… another one”. If you’re sincerely listening, you’ll often catch yourself out! But docs now days gotta run us through the office like herding cattle.
They also have to talk to everyone like they’re a simpleton. I don’t like being on the receiving end of it, but I get it. I can only imagine how many people doctors see who have zero medical knowledge and need to gently be spoon-fed every bit of new information. It’s gotta be so frustrating, what with all the anti-science garbage filling society right now.
For better or worse, if you weren’t fat they wouldn’t diagnose you properly either. I’ve been diagnosed with:
•Too skinny (this is particularly funny bc the complaint was fainting and both the low weight and fainting are from hyperthyroidism as I now know)
•Too tall
•‘this is normal for young women’ (if it were they’d all be unable to work traditional job)
•Psychosomatic ailment (depression on my medical record is the bane ofy existence)
•Just unlucky
•‘this must be an unknown symptom of your existing illness’
•Lacking exercise (I do 2 hour long swims a week and walk 3-5k every weekday)
•Probably lying about the amount I drink (both water and alcohol)
Is this problem with only having male doctors, or do women doctors pull this bullshit too?
I had a female doctor who loved to tell me I was too young to be experiencing the things I was experiencing. Like I had neck pain from an incident at work (which has been ongoing for like 10 years now) and she said “oh young people just look at their phones too much”. I also had a reaction to a piercing and she was insistent that the problem was “piercings and tattoos are bad for you”, yet when I swapped the ring out for a hypoallergenic one (no thanks to anything she had to say to me), it cleared up extremely quickly.
But anyway, she was at least able to diagnose my PCOS, which a male doctor had prematurely diagnosed as “pregnant” so that was nice.
I had a female doctor, when told my joints hurt so much I couldn’t use my hands for basic tasks, say to me “Well what do you want ME to do about it??”
I got kind of the opposite of that at the hands of a male doctor. “You can’t have Long Covid, only women get it.”
But the female doctor I got after that wasn’t much better. Third female one is at least taking me seriously.
To have the fun of experiencing what doctors are like when you have a chronic illness play You’re Just Imagining It.
“Anxiety” is the 21st century hysteria. Then it goes into your record so other doctors can summarily dismiss you as “difficult.”
This. It’s literally what most people who report physical symptoms but the doctor can’t find anything get diagnosed as.
That was the 20th century that they skipped I guess. We as a whole got so overweight that by the 21st century we just started defending it.
I feel bad posting that recognizing your name also runs a wholesome community…
What community? Womensstuff? Strangest echo chamber I have ever seen since they accept AFAB Transmen and AMAB Transwomen but specifically exclude AMAB men. I get it, it’s called women’s stuff, but it’s just as unwholesome as any “boy’s club”. I cringe every time I see the passive aggressive, warning/power trip when some supportive cisman comments. Just read her comment history for examples. Genderfluid peeps out there ducking the banhammer every other day.
The internet is male dominated and everywhere you see people talking from a point of male privilege. There is a single community that imposes measures so that it isn’t and you are complaining that you can’t write on there. Get a life. Cis men are not being oppressed by being barred from discussing on there, you got the entire rest of the internet for yourself.
Wholesome and lemmybe wholesome, I don’t meander into the others
Haha it’s fine
A friend of mine, who is just at the border of “normal” and “overweight” on the BMI scale, had a doctor refuse to remove a shard of glass from her hand until she lost 20 pounds. He said the surgery was too dangerous at her weight. There could be complications.
She ended up cutting her hand open and doing it herself.
That seems strange, although depending on how tall she was weight diffentials get pretty small. Like if you are 5’5 or below the difference between obese and normal is under 25 pounds (small window for overweight) It’s only 40 pounds at 6’5. People are always built differently though so it’s weird. When I was in my best shape I was always considered overweight according to the BMI chart because I was between 5’10/5’11 and was always around 187 pounds. No doctor would have called me fat at that time because I ran 5-10 miles a day and could dunk a basketball with both hands, I was lean but density was just high. I don’t know anything about surgeries but I would figure they have to do with blood pressure and clotting habits maybe? The doctor likely was just an ass, hopefully her hand healed up well. Pain in the ass medical field we have here.
Yeah, bmi is a terrible measure of health. If you’re at all muscular it’s just going to say you’re fat.
Don’t forget that in the 14th century if you fixed what the doctor couldn’t diagnoses you are called a witch. Usually by telling people to eat their vegetables instead of live entirely off of organ meat
Organ meat is actually kinda good for you if it’s varied.
Like, if you’re doing full carnivore, that’s how you avoid dying long term. But you need to be really deli;erate about it, like going vegan.
I was just saying that telling someone to stop eating only liver and kidneys and instead eat something green to cure their gout would likely get you labeled a witch.
Telling people how to improve their QOL with everyday changes, or just how to not die, always gets me called something like that.
They diagnose everyone as fat, though. Unless you’re a smoker or drinker in which case that gets the mark first. Unless there’s any hint of “drug use” ever.
Unless you’re underweight, in which case the solution to everything is to eat more. Yes, doctor, I am skinny, but I don’t think has anything to do with me asking to get on minoxidil.
To be fair, poor diet can contribute to hair loss.
But unless the doctors run tests to find out what they’re deficient in, eating more of what they are already eating will simply exasperate the deficiency as they’re not getting what they need it in the first place.
Therapy today is expensive and taxing, Not having to work on yourself sounds relaxing. Instead of evolving and changing your ways, You go to the doctor, they make you come and then your husband pays!
Source: Hysteria by Riki Lindhome
Ah, one half of Garfunkel and Oates. She is excellent!!
Find a doc like my old one. She’s 65 and talks like a burnt out, grizzled cabbie. Listens close, takes questions seriously, isn’t afraid to give you her “stupid look” if you deserve it.
Her clinic got bought out by the giant regional health gangsters, so she can no longer make decisions according to her professional opinion, gotta go with the gangster’s policies. Had to quit going.
But hey! We got Obamacare yesterday! Now if I can find a new doctor…
